We all speak to ourselves on a daily basis. Whether it’s out loud or
an internal (or infernal) commentary, we all practice self-talk, and how
we speak to ourselves can have a significant effect on our emotions and
subsequent actions.
Some people’s self-talk is mostly about the
future while, for others, it’s an internal dialogue about the past. Some
self-talk is positive and upbeat, while other self-talk is harsh,
critical, or defeatist. Self-talk can focus on other people, but, more
often than not, it is about ourselves - and is often negative.
If
you listen carefully, you’ll notice that your inner conversation
reflects thoughts and emotions. Self-talk isn’t random. It exhibits
patterns that repeat themselves. And everyone has their own
characteristic self-talk that is uniquely theirs.
In The Science of Self Talk,
mindfulness expert Ian Tuhovsky explains how we can rewrite the script
when it comes to our internal communication. Through a series of simple
exercises for use in daily life, you can understand your own self-talk
in order to change the conversation.
This unique book covers:
Constructive self-talk and dysfunctional self-talk - and knowing the difference
The impact of negative self-talk
Learned helplessness
Positive self-talk - challenge or threat?
The Pareto Principle which says that, for many events, roughly 80 percent of the effects come from 20 percent of the causes
Creating the right circumstances for motivation
Getting to know yourself
Loving yourself - emotional intelligence
Turning down the volume on your self-talk
Self-talk
is a little like turning on the director’s commentary on a movie. You
can simply watch the movie, or you can add in commentary about what’s
happening in it - this is, in a nutshell, what most of us do in our
daily lives. The Science of Self Talk can help you to rewrite the script of your movie and improve the way that you - and others - see yourself.